10 Open House Etiquette Fails You Can Learn From

Open houses offer a sweet deal for visitors. Whether you go to indulge in the free wine and snacks, sign up for giveaways, or gush over waterfront views, you’re welcome to drop by.

That’s the beauty of an open-door policy (and why attending open houses has become somewhat of a hobby for real estate enthusiasts). There’s no reason why you can’t enjoy these events, especially as a serious buyer on a mission.

But just like any public outing, there are expectations for what’s polite and courteous…and what will draw attention as being rude or inconsiderate.

Rather than present you with a bunch of boring rules, we’ve made it a little more fun with a list of buyers you don’t want to be just because you weren’t familiar with open house etiquette:

1. The permissive parent

Whether you should bring kids to an open house is a dilemma any parent understands.

In many cases, depending on your child’s age, temperament, and how much planning you’re able to do, it’s often better to hire a sitter and leave the kids at home. Towing them along presents safety risks and headaches for you as a parent.

But it isn’t always possible to find child care when both spouses work (which is the case for 66% of American families) or if you stop by an open house spontaneously and have the kids with you. In that case you’ll need to keep a close watch and set some ground rules.

“If you bring your kids to an open house, don’t let them run around unsupervised, or interrupt the home tours,” says top-performing agent Ann-Marie Sharp of the Atlanta, Georgia suburb of Cumming.

“Tell your kids to be respectful and treat the house like it’s a museum, so that the seller’s agent doesn’t need to be concerned about damage to their client’s property.”

Try to avoid scheduling back-to-back open houses with kids, too. Take breaks to have lunch or split up the tours over a couple of days. Even if you’ve scheduled breaks, be aware of your kids’ energy levels and attitudes so that you know when they’re about to hit a wall.

2. The early bird or late arriver

This one is an age-old rule that Emily Post included in her iconic book on etiquette way back in 1922: Do not arrive at an open-house party too early, or too late.

Open houses are by definition events that invite guests to come and go as they please — but that only holds true for the duration of the event.

If an open house is scheduled for 2 to 5 p.m., don’t show up at 1:15 or 5:30 and expect to be welcomed with open arms.

“Most real estate agents are on the clock 24/7, but we still do have families,”  says Sharp.

“When buyers arrive at the open house after hours, that may intrude on our valuable family time — not to mention the homeowners, who simply want to come home after the open house and live their lives.”

If you can’t make it during the open house hours, schedule a private showing at a later date.

3. The helicopter buyer

When you’re the only buyer at an open house, it’s natural for the seller’s agent to give you their full attention. However, if you’re at a well-attended open house party, don’t monopolize the agent’s time.

Open houses offer a large number of buyers a first look at the house, simply to learn if the house has the right size, layout, or design to suit their needs.

If you decide you’re serious about purchasing it, chat with your own agent about your interest and to come up with a list of questions you’d like to ask the listing agent.

Then have your agent set up a showing to find out more information and discuss what it will take to put together a successful offer.

4. The mysterious lurker

No agent likes a buyer who’s constantly in their face with endless questions, but there is such a thing as being too quiet at an open house.

“Our rule is safety first. So, I’m always wary at open houses, especially when a potential buyer expects me to walk ahead of them into the basement or a closet,” says Sharp.

Some buyers are introverts who hate crowds and parties. If you’d rather have a one-on-one, private conversation about the property with the listing agent, the open house isn’t the place for that.

Instead, have your agent arrange a private showing for just you, your agent, and the listing agent.

5. The private investigator

You’re welcome to open a closet or two at the open house and peek in the kitchen cabinets to get a feel for a home’s storage space. But don’t act like you’re searching a crime scene. If you’d like to make an offer, you’ll be able to check out a house more in depth at that time.

Until then, you shouldn’t:

• Check medicine cabinets
• Pick at peeling paint
• Pull down the attic ladder
• Flip light switches
• Play with the blinds
• Flush toilets
• Run faucets
• Open up the electrical box or other main systems of the house

If your worried about the condition of the house, ask your home inspector to pay careful attention to any items that have you particularly worried — after you put in an offer.

6. The guitar strummer

You’re free to observe a home’s lovely crown molding, enjoy the views of the backyard, and size up whether the bathrooms have enough counter space. But you shouldn’t get up close and intimate with a homeowner’s personal property.

It would be inappropriate to do things like:

• Thumb through books on a shelf
• Strum guitars or plunk on pianos
• Turn on the television
• Pick up décor like sculptures or vases
• Use hand lotions or spray perfume like you’re at a department store

“No one wants someone coming into their home and touching their private things,” says Sharp. “When you do that at an open house, you’re creating a lot of stress for the seller’s agent, w